Counsellor Sarah Barr helps us understand personality types and what they can mean for our personal energy levels.

“I am not boring or shy.

I am an introvert.

an artist.

a lover.

a dreamer.

a fighter.

a seeker”.

Introverted people tend to be more focused on their thoughts, feelings and behaviour. They may be quieter and more reserved.

Extroverts gain energy from social interaction and other people. Whilst introverts create their energy from within.

We all have some degree of both introversion and extroversion. However, people often tend to lean one way or the other.

The following are just a few of the signs that you (or someone you know) might be an introvert. Alternatively check out my quiz: Click Here

1. Being Around Lots of People Drains Your Energy

Do you ever feel exhausted after spending time with a lot of people? 

Well one of the main characteristics of this personality type is introverts use a lot of energy when in social situations, whilst extroverts gain energy from social situations.

This does not mean that introverts do not enjoy social events or party’s, they may prefer the company of  their close friends instead. An extrovert may go to a party with the goal of meeting new people whilst an introvert may go to a party wishing to spend time with close friends.

Introverts find small talk tiring and rather have deep and meaningful conversations.

“If the conversation doesn’t interest us, we often go quiet and wander the wonderland that is our imagination. We find endless entertainment in our ideas and fantasies”- Michaela Chung.

2. You Enjoy Your Own Company

You enjoy a few hours to yourself, no chatting, no faces just you.

This is how introverts build up their energy resource, helping you to feel recharged.

However this does not mean that you want to be alone all of the time.

3. You Have a Small Group of Close Friends

You have a small group of close friends who get you, who you can be yourself and feel comfortable with.

You choose your friends carefully and allow them into your world.

These friends are your people whom you trust and love.

4. People Often Describe You as Shy

Sometimes introverts can be described as quiet, reserved and mistaken for being shy.

While some introverts are shy, some are not. Often a persons quietness can be misunderstood as being shy.

Introverts prefer to choose their words carefully and listen rather than engage in chit-chat.

5. You Are Very Self-Aware

Introverts tend to be inward-turning so they spend time examining their own experiences.

Sometimes over thinking and analysing situations and conversations with people. Yet they have great insight into themselves, their feelings, thoughts and behaviours.

Self-awareness and self-understanding is important to introverts as they enjoy learning more about themselves, this, in turn, helps them to understand other people too.


If you find that your introverted tendencies are the result of anxiety that impacts your normal day-to-day functioning talking to others or a counsellor may help. You can learn new coping strategies and meet new people who understand.

Take my quiz to discover your personality type!

QUIZ: Are you an Extrovert or an Introvert?

Minding Mammy

New Beginnings is facilitating a workshop for mums ‘Minding Mammy’, topics such as anxiety, depression, self-care and social media are discussed openly and honestly. It is a space where mums can meet, have a coffee and take off their masks but most importantly realise that it is not just you that feels a certain way. We all do from time to time.

For more information about the workshop or counselling I can be contacted through my Facebook page or call 0864477867.

Take Care~ Sarah.