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Balance - Sarah Barr


Sarah has a degree in sociology and social policy and has qualified as an integrative counselor. This column focuses on women and the issues they may face in today's world.

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Why it is important to celebrate your small wins 6 hours ago

Why it is important to celebrate your small wins

By  •  Health

So many of us can go through the day completely disqualifying any positives that may have happened. We don’t always recognise what we have accomplished and if we do, we …
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Boost your confidence by showing yourself some self-compassion 2 weeks ago

Boost your confidence by showing yourself some self-compassion

By  •  Health

We all have that annoying, negative voice in our heads. The voice that criticises, doubts and generally puts you down. Destroying your confidence and feeding your anxiety.

Sometimes we …
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Three reasons to surround yourself with positive people 2 months ago

Three reasons to surround yourself with positive people

By  •  Health

The people who you spend the most time with can influence or change your mood and how you view yourself and your abilities.

When you are surrounded by positive people …
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Mental Strength 3 months ago

Mental Strength

By  •  Health

We still live in a society that somewhat values the “get up and at it” and “pull yourself together” mentality.

For years, anyone who was living with depression, anxiety or …
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Re-entry anxiety: How to adjust to life after lockdown 3 months ago

Re-entry anxiety: How to adjust to life after lockdown

By  •  Health

The lockdown cloud is slowly starting to lift and whilst some of us are eager to feel a sense of normality again in our lives, the prospect of a ‘new …
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Three ways to boost your confidence 3 months ago

Three ways to boost your confidence

By  •  Health

Self-confidence is about trusting your abilities, qualities and judgment.

When you believe in yourself, you’ll be more willing to try new things. Whether you apply for a promotion or sign …
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Men’s Mental Health: What you can do to support a loved one 3 months ago

Men’s Mental Health: What you can do to support a loved one

By  •  Health

International Men’s Health Week runs each year from June 15th to 21st.

This year’s theme is ‘Restoring the Balance’ and everyone is asked to ‘part of the solution’ and do …
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Post-lockdown anxiety: What happens now? 4 months ago

Post-lockdown anxiety: What happens now?

By  •  Health

If you live with an anxiety disorder, or if you have experienced anxiety for the first time due to the pandemic, there are things you can do to help you …
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Don’t Be So Hard on Yourself: How to help boost your self-worth 4 months ago

Don’t Be So Hard on Yourself: How to help boost your self-worth

By  •  Health

When it comes to your self-worth, only one opinion really matters — your own.

Yet we should be very gentle with ourselves as we tend to be our own worst …
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Living with Depression through Covid-19 4 months ago

Living with Depression through Covid-19

By  •  Health

Depression is much more than feeling sad. It is a very real mental health condition and affects the mind and body. Depression affects how people sleep, eat, and see the …
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Caring for yourself and your family during lockdown 5 months ago

Caring for yourself and your family during lockdown

By  •  Health, Kids

The coronavirus outbreak has affected our daily lives. It can be a big adjustment, as we create a new routine at home, with home-schooling and working from home. Tensions might …
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Living through isolation 5 months ago

Living through isolation

By  •  Health

This is a really challenging time for everyone. We have our good days, and our not so good days. Many people will be feeling lonely, isolated and disconnected from the …
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5 ways to create a new routine for your wellness at this time 6 months ago

5 ways to create a new routine for your wellness at this time

By  •  Health

Without a routine, our life can feel stressful and unpredictable. If you have a mental health condition, this unpredictability and lack of structure can cause you extra stress, worry, as …
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15 wellness tips for self-isolation 6 months ago

15 wellness tips for self-isolation

By  •  Health

The main focus at the minute with my clients, myself, my friends, my family and probably the majority of people is how can we care for our emotional and mental …
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Minding your mental health during Covid-19 6 months ago

Minding your mental health during Covid-19

By  •  Health

This is an unsettling time for us all, therefore it’s important to remember the facts and only listen or follow reliable news sources.

Anxiety creates repetitive, intrusive and fear-based thoughts. …
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Four ways to stay motivated during Covid-19 6 months ago

Four ways to stay motivated during Covid-19

By  •  Health

We are living with quite a bit of uncertainty at the minute. Our routines have been turned upside down, our daily schedules have changed and we may find it harder to motivate ourselves.

Here are 4 tips that can help us to self-motivate:

1. Welcome the challenge.

Embrace this time.

Is there anything you would like to learn or upskill in?

Re-write your daily routine. Get up and get dressed every day and face your day with a plan. Set a goal, such as clearingcout cupboards, baking, reading, calling a friend or listening to a guided meditation or breathing relaxation technique on YouTube.

2. Reflect on your motivation.

Look back on times in your life, when you were motivated. What was the underlying driver? Why did you do it? For yourself, your family or your work?

Tap into these reasons again.

This is what drives the ‘initiation phase’ and it requires focus to change our daily routines and to start new habits.

3. Self-regulation.

Self-regulation is about managing our own behaviour. This is not just about having self-control, it also involves goal setting and starting and maintaining good habits.

Creating an adaptive mindset, will help you to have the ability to adapt your goals, attitude and habits in response to the changes you may face.

4. Goal-Setting.

Many of our goals have gone or they seem uncertain. So, set a new one!

Take time and think about what you would like to do. Perhaps you may consider going down a different work path, or learn a new skill or it may be an opportunity for you to catch up on paperwork. Perhaps set some shorter, medium and longer-term flexible goals.

This pandemic provides a unique chance to reflect and recharge.

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We’re all in this together 7 months ago

We’re all in this together

By  •  Health

Fear and anxiety can drive us to become very self-focused. Yet our choices affect everyone around us.

We are all connected to each other, our actions will impact others.

It …
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Five ways to become more confident 7 months ago

Five ways to become more confident

By  •  Health

If you don’t believe in yourself, how can others believe in you?

  1. Challenge your self-limiting beliefs

When we are children we believe we can do anything, but …
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How to create your own journal 7 months ago

How to create your own journal

By  •  Health

A journal can be a great outlet for stress, negative feelings and worry. It helps to create new positive thinking habits, grows self-awareness, gives you more focus and it can …
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How to create a vision board 9 months ago

How to create a vision board

By  •  Health

I love vision boards, for me they’re an opportunity to think about what you would like in your life, big or small. They are one of the best visualisation tools.


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New Year’s Eve – Letting go and moving forward 9 months ago

New Year’s Eve – Letting go and moving forward

By  •  Health

This New Year’s Eve why not start a new tradition. Let go of any negativity that has affected you over the past year or decade! And set some new intentions …
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Three things to know this Christmas if your loved one is living with a mental illness 10 months ago

Three things to know this Christmas if your loved one is living with a mental illness

By  •  Health

Invitations for family gatherings and christmas parties are starting to arrive with more guaranteed to come. For some, it will be a rush of excitement, laughing with friends and spending …
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Are you a Highly Sensitive Person? 10 months ago

Are you a Highly Sensitive Person?

By  •  Health

Are you a highly sensitive person?

Do you feel like you reflect on things more than everyone else? Do you often worry about how other people feel? And do you …
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5 ways to bring positivity into your life 11 months ago

5 ways to bring positivity into your life

By  •  Health

Being positive will impact your life in so many ways. Your relationships with others will improve as people are drawn to positive people and your stress levels will decrease helping …
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Facing social anxiety 12 months ago

Facing social anxiety

By  •  Health

Social anxiety, put simply, is the fear of social situations.

Living with social anxiety can be frustrating and overwhelming. Your mind is constantly jumping to the worst case scenario. …
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Managing your negative thoughts 1 year ago

Managing your negative thoughts

By  •  Health

Negative thoughts can spontaneously pop into our heads, sometimes in an intrusive and critical way.

It can happen whilst you’re having a coffee with a friend. When suddenly a negative …
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Saying No 1 year ago

Saying No

By  •  Health

Why is it so difficult to say “no”?

Having people think negatively of you is the ultimate rejection. This is a reason many people find it difficult to say “no”. …
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Your future is not defined by your Leaving Cert results 1 year ago

Your future is not defined by your Leaving Cert results

By  •  Health

If you received your Leaving Cert results today, please do not let them dictate your future and the person who you are.

I cried when I received mine, and not …
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Tidy House = Tidy Mind? 1 year ago

Tidy House = Tidy Mind?

By  •  Health

The benefits of a tidy and organised home are obvious.

Cleaning can be an outlet for energy and negative emotions. Removing dust, dirt and clutter from our environment provides you …
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Why ‘Me’ time is a necessity, not a luxury 1 year ago

Why ‘Me’ time is a necessity, not a luxury

By  •  Health

Life can be hectic, chaotic, noisy…

It is so easy to feel overwhelmed by it all, no matter who you are or what your social media feed or stories say.


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5 ways to manage social anxiety this summer 1 year ago

5 ways to manage social anxiety this summer

By  •  Health

Social anxiety can impact on people in different ways. Some people will find that all social situations are stressful, while others will only feel the fear when they have to …
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How you can help care for a new mum 1 year ago

How you can help care for a new mum

By  •  Health

Statistics often say one thing about postpartum mood disorders and social media says another. Many new mums feel like they can’t identify with the happy messages being shared on social …
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Identity: Learning to like who you are 1 year ago

Identity: Learning to like who you are

By  •  Health

Your self-talk is one of the major factors in helping to shape your identity.

Studies show that self-talk can improve your memory, confidence and focus.

Show yourself some kindness


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Motherhood Unplugged – Why we need Maternal Mental Health Day 1 year ago

Motherhood Unplugged – Why we need Maternal Mental Health Day

By  •  Health, Mammy

Maternal Mental Health Awareness Week starts April 29th – May 3rd. Maternal Mental Health Day is May 1st.

As many as 1 in 5 mothers experience some type of perinatal …
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Taking the first step into counselling 1 year ago

Taking the first step into counselling

By  •  Health

Visiting a counsellor for the first time is incredibly daunting and it can be really difficult. Many people will often think about making that first appointment for months before they …
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Have you seen my confidence? 1 year ago

Have you seen my confidence?

By  •  Health

Confidence is something that (mostly) everyone will struggle with, at least once in their lives. Whether it is your confidence in work, in college, as a mum, as a …
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Minding Me, self-care and CBT 2 years ago

Minding Me, self-care and CBT

By  •  Health

‘Minding Me’ is all about minding yourself.

The 5 week wellness workshop will focus on learning and developing self-care practices and CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) techniques. This workshop is delivered …
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Think Positive – A guide to daily affirmations 2 years ago

Think Positive – A guide to daily affirmations

By  •  Health

Positive affirmations release you from anxiety, negativity, guilt, fear and pain. Here are some examples:

Affirmations are simple messages. Repeated over-and-over, they begin to worm their way into your mind. Slowly changing …
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Why social anxiety is more than just being shy 2 years ago

Why social anxiety is more than just being shy

By  •  Health

Social anxiety is more than just being shy.

• Social anxiety is all-consuming, slowly stealing your confidence and identity.

It is making you feel lost, unsure of …
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Don’t forget to love yourself this Valentine’s Day 2 years ago

Don’t forget to love yourself this Valentine’s Day

By  •  Health, Life

Valentine’s Day puts the emphasis on love for someone special in your life.

Yet YOU are the most important person in your life.

Why not make this day about loving yourself?


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Naming Your Anxiety 2 years ago

Naming Your Anxiety

By  •  Health

Whether you get physical panic attacks or mental mayhem, heart palpitations or cognitive chaos. If you feel isolated or watched,  terrified of a crowd or of interacting with one person …
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Caring for yourself this New Year 2 years ago

Caring for yourself this New Year

By  •  Health

Living with a mental illness this time of year can be hard. There is so much pressure pouring in from social media, society etc to “start over” or change how …
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How to create new positive habits 2 years ago

How to create new positive habits

By  •  Health

Habits, we all have them, good ones and bad ones.

Firstly let’s define habits. Habits are the small decisions you make and actions you perform every day. According to research …
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Motherhood and Me 2 years ago

Motherhood and Me

By  •  Health, Mammy

Being a mum in today’s world is no easy task, as amazing as it is, it is hard. With all the ‘normal’ duties of motherhood, mums today also have to …
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5 ways to manage social anxiety 2 years ago

5 ways to manage social anxiety

By  •  Health

Anxiety is a part of everyday life for many people. Yet you may be completely unaware, as so many people put in a lot of energy and time in hiding …
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20 self-care ideas for a bad day 2 years ago

20 self-care ideas for a bad day

By  •  Health

It can be so hard to practice any type of self-care when you’re not feeling yourself. Yet this is exactly when you need it the most.

On days …
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How counselling can help treat Obsessive Compulsive Disorder 2 years ago

How counselling can help treat Obsessive Compulsive Disorder

By  •  Health

What is OCD?

Obsessive Compulsive Disorder is a mental illness that creates negative thoughts. These thoughts lead you to believe that if you do not carry out a certain …
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5 signs you are suffering from workplace burnout 2 years ago

5 signs you are suffering from workplace burnout

By  •  Health

Working in a stressful, high-pressured or demanding job can negatively impact on your mental health. This, coupled with issues at home, arranging child care throughout the summer holidays …
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How to rebuild confidence after becoming a mum 2 years ago

How to rebuild confidence after becoming a mum

By  •  Health, Mammy

Researchers found that most mums experience a significant dip in self-esteem after having a baby that can last up to three years.

 

This is regardless of the mother’s relationship …
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Are you stressed? 2 years ago

Are you stressed?

By  •  Health

We all know how important self-care is for our mind and body. However it is very difficult to practice self-care if we are stressed and do not recognise that we …
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