The S-Mum, Maria, pens an open letter to another mother she bumped into during the week whose actions made her feel inspired.
A letter to the Mammy I watched last week.
Last week, I found myself staring at you.
I couldn’t take my eyes off you.
You were dealing with your little one at an event, in front of lots and lots of people. And I couldn’t stop watching you, because you were beautiful. As a lady AND as a Mammy.
You were everything that I know I need to try harder to be.
Your gorgeous little one was being a child… jumping, playing, running. It didn’t take a fizzle out of you.
And every time you caught your child’s attention, you did something that melted my heart…
A smile so full of love and pride and genuine adoration that it lit up your face… and the face of your little one.
Why did it stop me in my tracks?
Because in your calm and smiling face, I saw what I know I should try harder to be.
I was sad. I knew as I watched you, that had that been me and Mini-Me, I would have been scolding and frowning, firing the “Get over ere now” looks and trying through gritted teeth to get her to stop. to sit down. To listen. I might have been smiling, but it would have been a “Yes I’m smiling but inside I want to scream” smile.
Was this what you had on your face?
Who knows? There’s a good chance that if I sent you this, you’ll laugh it off and tell me you were ready to scream, but it doesn’t matter.
All that your little one saw that day, was the smiling face of a Mammy. From that smile, your child only read “I love you”, “You’re fine” and “Mammy’s here”.
That smile said so much more than that.
It said safety, kindness, patience, understanding and love… a love that is unconditional and calm. A love that doesn’t care what other people in the room think. A love that radiated from your face, more beautifully than anything I’ve seen.
You were glowing.
And you inspired me.
In you, I saw what I could be if I just took a breath every so often and let my Mini–Me be…well, let her be mini. I’m tough on her. Of course I am. And I have to be. That’s parenting. That’s me. But sometimes, I need to try to be like you. You looked so much prettier smiling than you would have, had you been scolding.
Sometimes, we all just need to smile. To not give a crap how others see our children. To not give a crap how others see us as Mums.
It made my heart burst with love just watching you smile. I can only imagine the effect that beautiful smile would had on your little one.
What a lucky little one you have.
So I just wanted to say to you Mammy, you rock.
You’re beautiful and you’re inspirational.
And thank you,
Another Mammy. xxxx